Is Jesus Safe?
- Grantley Morris
- 2 days ago
- 16 min read
Sexual Issues in Relating to Jesus
Start at Part 1: An Alter Meets Jesus
The child alter of a sexual abuse survivor with Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder) tells of her encounters with Jesus.
A woman I’ll call Violet had a father who used to do bad things to her when she was a child. She has over a hundred alters who are now healing. When one of her little alters became aware of those alters who were healing and noticed that they called Jesus ‘Daddy,’ she became very frightened of Jesus. Knowing nothing about fathers other than her experience of her own father, she mistakenly supposed Jesus must be like her father who used to touch her in bad ways. I told her that her father had been bad and explained that Jesus was nothing like him and that it would really help her to get to know Jesus. Shocked to hear that her father had not acted in love, it took her some time to get her head around the implications. Although still scared, she eventually mustered the courage to talk with Jesus. The following is what she told me about it. Please don't be alarmed by the way it commences; Jesus, as always, proved himself totally safe.
Grantley Morris
You said the new Daddy loves me, and the bad Dad did not love me. That made me so sad and scared and all sorts of other things. It took me a long time, but I was finally brave enough to try talking to Daddy. I was shy, but Daddy put me on his lap. That’s what bad Dad would do, so that he could touch me, and I thought that maybe that’s what Daddy wanted. So I opened my legs a little for him. But he just closed my legs and sang me a song!
The song started with an Ooh and ended with a kiss, and all along the middle it goes something like this: “Ooh, snuggle puppy of mine, everything about you is especially fine. I love what you are. I love what you do. Fuzzy little snuggle puppy, I love you.”
I was so happy! He didn’t want touching. He just wanted singing and he sang that song! When he was all done, he said, “It’s a true song! Everything about you is perfect for me. I love watching you move around and I love the way you look at things. And I will never touch your private parts and I don’t have any for you to touch!”
I thought he was being silly. He must have private parts. Everyone has a pee-pee. That’s how you go pee-pee! “But how do you go pee-pee?” I asked.
He said he digests everything perfectly so he doesn’t need to go pee-pee.
I hugged his neck and said, “Promise?” and he promised me.
Now I know for certain that he won’t touch my panties. He would never break a promise!
I gave him a big hug and he sang, “I say, Ooh, snuggle puppy of mine, everything about you is especially fine. I love what you are. I love what you do. Ooh I love you.”
Isn’t that the happiest?!
The Risen Jesus has No Genitals?
Most of the following is devoted to why it is logical and biblical to conclude that no resurrected humans (of the which Jesus was the first) have genitals. Before doing so, however, perhaps I should address a couple of issues raised by an alter reporting Jesus as saying that he digests food ‘perfectly.’
It is essential to affirm that no extra-biblical revelation should in any way be treated as being as reliable as the Bible. Nevertheless, this statement raised two objections in my mind that I feel inclined to comment on.
My first reaction was that the resurrected Lord never eats physical food and so does not digest it. I immediately realized, however, that I was mistaken. There are several biblical references to eating and drinking in the next life. For example:
Luke 22:15-18 He said to them, “I have earnestly desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer, for I tell you, I will no longer by any means eat of it until it is fulfilled in God’s Kingdom.” He received a cup, and when he had given thanks, he said, “Take this, and share it among yourselves, for I tell you, I will not drink at all again from the fruit of the vine, until God’s Kingdom comes.”
Luke 22:29-30 I confer on you a kingdom, even as my Father conferred on me, that you may eat and drink at my table in my Kingdom. You will sit on thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel.”
We might be tempted to dismiss all of this as merely metaphorical but Scripture insists that the resurrected Lord ate and drank:
Luke 24:41-43 While they still didn’t believe for joy, and wondered, he said to them, “Do you have anything here to eat?” They gave him a piece of a broiled fish and some honeycomb. He took them, and ate in front of them.
Acts 10:40-41 God raised him up the third day, and gave him to be revealed . . . to us, who ate and drank with him after he rose from the dead. (Emphasis mine.)
The other query raised by digesting food ‘perfectly’ is: if the design of our current bodies is imperfect why did the perfect Lord design them that way? The elimination of waste is such an integral part of our physiology that it is hard to believe all this was created after the fall. Much in the way of reproduction, such as spreading of seeds and the fertilizing of plants, hinges in animals eliminating waste. However, it is easy to see this as temporary and not needed in the world to come.
Let’s move on, however, to something far more important:
Jesus is not Sexual
Our gracious Lord freely forgives those who see the error of their ways and want his forgiveness. Nevertheless, Jesus insisted that lust is a grave sin:
Matthew 5:27-29 You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery;’ but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one of your members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna.
Remember that it was not in our sex-obsessed society that Jesus declared lust to be as depraved as adultery. He was speaking to people who regarded adultery as such a heinous crime that it incurred the death penalty (John 8:3-5).
Jesus is no hypocrite. Indeed, he alone has never sinned:
John 8:46 Which of you convicts me of sin? . . .
2 Corinthians 5:21 For him who knew no sin [Jesus] he made to be sin on our behalf; so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.
Hebrews 7:26 For such a high priest [Jesus] was fitting for us: holy, guiltless, undefiled, separated from sinners . . .
1 Peter 1:19 . . . as of a faultless and pure lamb, the blood of Christ.
1 Peter 2:22 who did not sin, “neither was deceit found in his mouth.”
1 John 3:5 You know that he was revealed to take away our sins, and in him is no sin.
The holy Son of God has never lusted. The Son of God is as sexually innocent as a newborn. Moreover, in heaven, where he is now enthroned, there is no sex.
Even for humans who are currently very sexual, their sex drive is temporary. It usually slowly rises from nothing as a newborn to intense in their late teens and early twenties and then gradually fades until it completely disappears in the next life.
Mark 12:25 For when they will rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.
It is there, in that place where there is no sex, that the bodies of all deemed worthy of heaven will be like that of the eternal Son of God:
1 Corinthians 15:42-44 So also is the resurrection of the dead. . . . It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body. . . .
1 Corinthians 15:49 And just as we have borne the liken
ess of the earthly man, so shall we bear the likeness of the man from heaven. (NIV)
Philippians 3:20-21 For our citizenship is in heaven, from where we also wait for a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ; who will change the body of our humiliation to be conformed to the body of his glory . . .
1 John 3:2 . . . when he is revealed, we will be like him; for we will see him just as he is.
One of the similarities between the bodies of people in heaven and that of our risen Lord is lack of sex drive. He has no sexual feelings. Jesus has a resurrected body and resurrected people do not have sexual relations.
Jesus declaration that there is no sex in the next life makes sense. Since there is no death in the next life, there is no need to reproduce to replace those who have died. And in a world of perfect love and fellowship, exclusive relationships, such as marriage, would be out of place, and emotionally needless. And no marriage implies no sex, since over and over the Bible teaches that sex must be limited exclusively to marriage and that sex creates an exclusive relationship by making two people one.
Moreover, Jesus said what he did about the next life because of this question:
Mark 12:19-23 Teacher, Moses wrote to us, ‘If a man’s brother dies, and leaves a wife behind him, and leaves no children, that his brother should take his wife, and raise up offspring for his brother.’ There were seven brothers. The first took a wife, and dying left no offspring. The second took her, and died, leaving no children behind him. The third likewise; and the seven took her and left no children. Last of all the woman also died. In the resurrection, when they rise, whose wife will she be of them? For the seven had her as a wife.
Although the scenario concocted by the Sadducee was stretched to humorous extremes by being repeated seven times. It was, nevertheless, a possibility orchestrated by God himself. Under Old Testament law, if a man dies, leaving a childless widow, his unmarried brother was divinely expected to marry her (Deuteronomy 25:5-10). So the question itself suggests that God has ordained that marriage be restricted to this side of eternity. And if there is no marriage in heaven, there is no sex and resurrected bodies will have no need of sexual organs. What makes this particularly relevant to the Jesus is that, as indicated in Scriptures already cited, Jesus’ resurrected body is the prototype of all resurrected bodies. He became flesh and blood like us so that we could gain a resurrected body like his.
We might find it perplexing, frustrating or even embarrassing, but for all of us the unavoidable reality that a basic feature of fear is that it is stubbornly resistant to rational thought. No matter how intelligent we are, fear bypasses our intellect and spreads from one disturbing experience to safe things that bear a superficial similarity.
Logically, if the all-powerful Lord were an abuser, keeping our distance from him would be no protection. Like no one else, however, the Almighty is worthy of infinite power because he will never abuse that power, but will use it for your good.
Some people were blessed with parents who were non-sexual with them and were continually warm, gentle, compassionate, supportive, faithful and forgiving. Such people are ideally placed to understand God’s love, not merely intellectually, but on an emotional and subconscious level. The sad reality, however, is that, for many of us, our backgrounds are a handicap rather than a help. Our presumptions about God’s love for us are alarmingly warped, both by our shallow understanding of God and by our observations and experiences of ‘love’ from other sources. Nevertheless, when alters push through their fear and get to know Jesus, they find in him the perfect father they have always craved and gain a father superior to any that those with more privileged backgrounds have ever enjoyed and they are blessed with deeper spiritual revelations.
Mary is another sexual abuse survivor with multiple personalities. She is single and in her twenties. Tragically, many abuse survivors marry before healing from their sexual abuse. The result is sheer torture for both survivors and their partners. To enter a rich, fulfilling marriage, Mary and her alters must reach the point where they can fully trust a man, physically. The following account shows Jesus working toward the healing Mary and her alters need in order to enjoy the full life he longs to bless her with – which most likely includes marriage.
As essential as human touch is for a child’s present and future well-being, it is just as essential that touch always be as warm, harmless and non-sexual as a teddy bear. Can Jesus offer this? How safe is he? People with Dissociative Identity Disorder have had their trust violated – often sexually, by people who seemed good and dependable – and are understandably terrified of a repeat, no matter how illogical it may seem.
Jesus is more than just purer than any other human. Nor does he merely exercise total, never-ending sexual restraint like no other man. Jesus is God. He is completely sexless.
As one of Mary’s alters, Little One, implied in the previous webpage, (which is best read before proceeding) Jesus particularly focuses on doing for alters what would be inappropriate or too risky for friends or counselors to attempt. Only Jesus is totally safe and pure and never gets his timing wrong. He never abuses. He is always innocent and non-sexual. In the following incidents, Little One always felt safe. Nothing turned bad and with Jesus nothing ever would. To be with Jesus is the safest place in the universe.
Among the tragedies that sexual abuse typically brings is that something innocent becomes so associated with past trauma that anything remotely like that innocent thing triggers terror, revulsion or some other unpleasant reaction. In the following account we see Jesus beginning to undo the damage by returning something innocent back to the status of harmless fun.
The following account is by Star, another of Mary’s alters. The instant Star received Christ’s salvation, her pristine innocence was established spiritually. Now Jesus is healing her by progressively restoring her innocence psychologically, so that in her mind and instinctive reactions she is like someone who had never been hurt. Never would Jesus cross the line. He is not only himself the personification of innocence, his goal is the restoration of innocence in all of his children. He is in the process of so fully undoing Mary’s sexual past that when she is ready for marriage, he will, as the proudest of fathers, present her to her husband-to-be as a chaste virgin, both spiritually and psychologically.
The following is from Star, written several days after the previous webpage.
Grantley Morris
I was struggling a lot and Jesus wanted to talk to me. I was lying in bed and Little One was in another room. He sat on the side of my bed and we talked. It was so cool because he made me feel much better about things.
Then, out of nowhere, Little One came running through the room and tackled Jesus from behind, landing on his back. He flipped her over his shoulder. She landed on my bed and he started tickling her. She was laughing so hard. Jesus was laughing, too, and it made me laugh. After a while he let her breathe a bit, and then started playing with the end of her shirt. That scared me. Until then, I had been having so much fun, but raising her bottom of her shirt a little made me very uncomfortable. I almost ran away, but I’m glad I didn’t. He lifted the shirt just enough to blow on her belly. She screamed with laughter and played with his hand. She obviously felt delightfully safe but I was scared. I didn’t understand. I didn’t like him doing that. According to my experience, this is how abuse starts. It starts innocent and then gets bad.
I asked Jesus to leave. I didn’t want him tucking me in or anything. I was shocked that he actually listened to me and left. If Jesus isn’t safe, why did he obey me, a little girl? Why was he so nice?
In the morning, Jesus came in, woke up Little One and then sat on my bed. He talked to me about what happened that night. He said that he would never do anything like what those men did to us. He had no interest in that and said that I am perfectly safe with him, just as Little One and Baby are. He said it was good of me to be protective of Little One and try to keep people from hurting her again. He said he was proud of me. He swore to me, on him being God, that he would never do anything sexual to us and would help us if anyone else ever tried to hurt any of us.
Then we got up and did things for the day, but what was cool was that he came in to talk to me again that night. He sat on my bed and told me how proud of me he was and how I had done such a good job in learning to trust him. We talked about some of my bad memories and he made me feel better. The memories don’t hurt as much now. He said we can talk about them again some other time.
Little One came running in and tried to pounce on Jesus again. He moved and she landed on my bed. Then he started to tickle her in an utterly pure, safe and non-sexual way. She really likes that. I sat there watching and he asked me to help him. So I started tickling her under her arms and then he blew on her belly again. This time I wasn’t as scared. She was fighting him away again and I grabbed her arms. Now she couldn’t use her hands when Jesus tickled her or blew on her belly. She just kicked her feet and laughed until she couldn’t breathe.
That’s when Jesus stopped tickling her and came after me. I wasn’t ready for it so he got me very easily. I tried to tickle him, but I couldn’t. I was laughing too hard. My face turned red and I hit him with my pillow. When he gave me a break, Little One and I tackled him. It was so much fun. Then we took the pillows off the bed and started a pillow fight with him. We hit him a bunch of times before he made it to Little One’s bed to get her pillow. After we were all worn out, he sat with both of us and read us a story. Little One fell asleep leaning on him and I was close to sleep, too, so he stopped and tucked us in for the night.
I think you will be excited for me, Grantley, about what I am about to say and I hope you are proud of me. I know Jesus is. I had a horrible nightmare. I was tossing and turning all over. I woke Little One and she got Jesus for me.
I felt someone touch my arm and I screamed. When I opened my eyes, there was Jesus and Little One looking so sad for me. Jesus had a look of love deep in his eyes. I was scared and started crying. Little One left the room, but Jesus put out his arms. I crawled out of bed and into his lap. He balled me up like he does Little One and put his head on top of mine. He rocked me while I cried. He asked me what my nightmare was about and I told him between sobs. He just rocked me and held me tight until I stopped crying.
After a few minutes, I got out of his lap, but he didn’t look at all angry. My father used to yell at me and call me mean names if I woke up with nightmares. But Jesus was so loving. He just wanted me to feel better and be able to sleep. He tucked me back in bed and wiped my face with his hand. That’s when I saw the tear in his eye, too. He sat on my bed, handed me my teddy bear, kissed my forehead, and rubbed my back until I fell asleep again.
As funny as this is for me to say this: I think I am beginning to love Jesus. He is very nice and I feel safe with him now, even when he blows on Little One’s belly.
I asked him if he thought I was stupid for having a teddy bear and he said he thought I was very smart for keeping it because it helped me to feel safe and that was all that mattered.
Since that night, I have felt much better about him and I’ve sat in his lap with Little One sometimes. I let him tickle me and I will chase him around with Little One. I can give him hugs and I’m not afraid to cry in front of him anymore. He wipes away my tears and replaces them with his kisses.
I like spending time with him and he makes me feel good and safe wherever we go. I still get scared and he is okay with that. He gives me space and leaves me alone when I am struggling and need it. But now I know that I can come to him even when I am scared, when I have bad dreams, or just want to be loved. He is there for me whenever I call him.
I try not to ask for too much. He says I can ask as much as I need or want and he will give me what is best, but I’m still scared he will get tired of me. He says he won’t, but for some reason, that doesn’t take away my fear. I’ve never had anyone stay in my life for long. They are around for a few years, maybe, then they move on. I am trying to believe him and not listen to my heart, but the fear is there and sometimes it gets the best of me. He says that’s when I need to run to him the most, but I haven’t yet.
He still lets me go off by myself and waits for me to call him or come back. Then he gives me a big hug and says he is proud of me. I like it when he says that. It makes me feel good. I feel important. Someone not only notices, but cares to pay attention and stick around for a little while.
Mary [Star’s host] is having serious problems at work. I told Jesus all the things that scare me about that and he said that I don’t need to worry about it because he knows what he wants to see happen. He wouldn’t tell me what that was, but he assured me he has a plan. He also said that these fears will come back and all I need to do is remind myself of what he said or come find him again and he will tell me as many times as I need to hear it. He promised he won’t ever get tired of telling me. Jesus really understands me.
Footnote: In an e-mail a little later, Little One wrote:
At times Jesus has told Star that he isn’t a man or a woman. He is a spirit and he will never, ever hurt us like our daddy did. He wants to be to us what a daddy is supposed to be for a little girl. We call him Dada Jesus. We also call Father God, Papa. Papa’s face lights up with joy and he has a huge smile. To see Papa so happy makes my heart glow just like his face. Papa is fun. He’s amazing!
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About Multiple Personality Disorder:Healing your “Inner Child”
The Positive Benefits of Multiple Personalities:Does Multiple Personality Disorder Create a Superior Brain?
Pages by Alters:“I Thought I Was the Opposite Sex!” Coping With All the Confusion of Being an Alter (Insider)
God’s Love for Alters A Word from Jesus to an Alter, For all Alters
Free help in the full recovery of survivors (male and female) of all forms of sexual
God’s Extreme Patience With Alters:“I Kept Trying to Force God to Reject Me” Encouraging testimony of a man with D.I.D (alters not specifically mentioned, but feature strongly)
General Help:How to Comfort the Hurting